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Real Aide-memoire Weddings: Erica & Beks October 04 2017

We're so excited to share this next couple in our Real Aide-Mémoire Weddings blog series, Erica & Beks. We loved being a part of your engagement and wedding day! 

Erica & Beks' Aide-memoire Jewelry Rings, Real Weddings - Photography by Lenaig Delisle

Names: Erica & Beks

Location: Vashon Island, WA
Date: August 12, 2017

What was the most memorable and/or favorite part of your day?

We both really loved our ceremony! We hadn't planned it as far in advance as a lot of other elements of the wedding, like our photographer and the food, so we didn't have much time to think about what it would be like on the day. But it was so beautiful and felt so personal to our relationship. Beks' mom and aunt are pastors and officiated the ceremony, and Erica's mom lead a blessing of the rings.

Erica & Beks' Real Aide-memoire Weddings - Photography by Lenaig Delisle

Any advice for other couples who are currently planning their weddings?

Erica: There's a lot of advice online about how to decide what is most important to you at your wedding and how to prioritize that during planning but remember to keep in mind what the experience will be like for your guests. Think about things like parking, keeping everyone fed, music for all generations, etc. Also, remember to keep the kids happy! Happy kids are super cute and that will keep the adults entertained, too.

Beks: No matter how hard you try to be "chill," it's going to be stressful to plan a wedding and there will be some strain on your relationship. Try to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and expectations before you get upset with your fiance. I think you can avoid a lot of misunderstandings and conflicts if you realize that, even though you know the person you're marrying very well, you can't always predict the expectations they'll have or what will be really important to them and why.

Erica & Beks' Real Aide-memoire Weddings - Photography by Lenaig Delisle

If you could do it all again, would you change anything?

Erica: I would eat more. Haha, I'm still thinking about the appetizers I didn't try and how delicious the food I did eat was.

Beks: No, I loved it!

Erica & Beks' Real Aide-memoire Weddings - Photography by Lenaig Delisle

Erica & Beks' Real Aide-memoire Weddings - Photography by Lenaig Delisle

What surprised you the most about your wedding day?

Erica: I was honestly surprised by how easy everything felt. Even the little things that ended up not going according to plan actually made the day better since we wanted a very relaxed feel to the day. You plan all these details for so long, it's nerve-wracking to finally see everything come together, but I loved every minute!

Beks: I knew that our family and friends would be helpful, but was surprised by just how incredibly happy and willing people were to do anything to make the wedding and reception go well. It made a huge difference and we got to enjoy the day so much more because people were taking care of the inevitable hiccups.

Why was choosing an eco-friendly jeweler important to you?

Erica: My engagement ring first caught my eye because I am a scientist and was looking for a ring that wouldn't poke through lab gloves or anything. When I learned the ring was made locally in Seattle, I was so excited! We'd been looking for ways to tie hometowns, Atlanta and Seattle, into the wedding. Supporting small businesses was important to us throughout the whole wedding and knowing that our rings were made individually and responsibly made them feel like the perfect fit!

Beks: Growing up there was a lot of emphasis on recycling, driving less, and using less electricity as a way to live an eco-friendly life. It's been eye opening to learn the high environmental costs of less obvious things, like clothing. We try to be thoughtful about where we buy clothes, increasing the lifespan of things we have, and reducing food waste. With something as meaningful as wedding rings, we wanted to pay close attention in making an ethical choice.

Erica & Beks' Real Aide-memoire Weddings - Photography by Lenaig Delisle

Erica & Beks' Real Aide-memoire Weddings - Photography by Lenaig Delisle

Photography by Lenaig Delisle, more photos here.

Real Aide-Mémoire Weddings: Bridget & Cornelius August 23 2017

We're happy to introduce another couple in our Real Aide-Mémoire Weddings blog series. Thank you, Bridget and Cornelius, for making us a part of your special day!

Names: Bridget & Cornelius
Location: American Swedish Institute in Minneapolis, MN   
Date: March 26, 2017

What was the most memorable and/or favorite part of your day?

CorneliusI remember being alone and quiet for 5 minutes, away from all of the craziness, right before I went up to the ceremony. I got to reflect on everything. And a few minutes after that, I remember the moment Bridget turned the corner and I saw her walking towards me, about to become my wife. And maybe I teared up a little. Or a lot.

BridgetReading our vows. I was really nervous because, I don't know. I didn't want to be so mushy, pouring my heart out in front of everybody. But it was worth it. Even though I cried a whole bunch, I'm glad we wrote our own vows instead of reciting traditional ones.

Any advice for other couples who are currently planning their weddings?

CorneliusOn the day of, things will go wrong, not everything will unfold perfectly and according to plan. Don't worry about that. No matter what happens, no matter what little things go wrong, you're going to be married to the love of your life at the end of the day.

BridgetDon't be afraid to keep it small. I'm so glad that we just invited people close to us, because it made it special when each one of them was there, instead of inviting everyone only for the sake of having a huge fancy wedding.

Men's Classic Simple Wedding Band and Women's Princess Cut Engagement Ring in Yellow Gold by Aide-memoire Jewelry

The couple's rings: our 5mm Classic Simple Band1mm Smooth Square Band, and Square Solitaire Engagement Ring, all in 14k yellow gold with a matte finish.

Why was choosing an ethical and eco-friendly jeweler important to you?

We loved the idea that a single person, the same person, was carefully making our rings by hand. Everything matched perfectly: the colors, the shapes, the metals. We really liked the idea of supporting a small business instead of a giant brand.

If you could do it all again, would you change anything?

CorneliusI would've leaned even more on others to help out during the day itself. We had a tremendous amount of help from our family and friends - it literally wouldn't have happened without all of them - but I still found myself running around taking care of small things instead of just enjoying the night.

BridgetI wouldn't get a naked wedding cake. It was beautiful but the lack of anything (frosting, fondant, etc) on the outside of it made it really dry. Looked great in pictures, though.

What was your wedding song?

Our first dance was to "That's All" by Nat King Cole. It's such a sweet song.

What surprised you the most about your wedding day?

CorneliusThe sheer amount of love that we were surrounded by. Of course you know everyone's there to celebrate with you, but it's another thing experiencing it, being completely enveloped by love and good wishes and kindness from everyone, all at once.

BridgetI knew it was going to be a really emotional day, but I had no idea it would be that emotional. I basically started tearing up the moment I took my first step down the stairs towards the altar. And all of our friends and family were so happy and overjoyed and emotional, too. It was a big love fest.

Photography by Angela Doheny Photography


Real Aide-Mémoire Weddings: Ashley and Pat February 04 2016

Desirée Gardner, a photographer in Florida, recently wrote a blog post about the beautiful destination wedding she photographed for Ashley and Pat. Thank you Desirée for mentioning us in the blog post and for whisking us away to Cape San Blas through your gorgeous photos. Here some highlights from the blog post.

Groom’s ring – Aide-mémorie Jewelry
Bride’s ring – designed by groom at Pav & Broome Diamond Jewelers

Photos by Desirée Gardner Photography
View Desirée's full blog post here

 


Real Aide-Mémoire Weddings: Catherine & Christian October 08 2015

We are so excited to introduce another couple in our Real Aide-Mémoire Weddings blog series. Thank you, Catherine and Christian, for sharing your special day with us!

Catherine & Christian Wedding - Photos By One Summer Day

 

Names: Catherine and Christian
Location: Josephine Butler Parks Center, Washington, DC    
Date: August 15, 2015    

What was the most memorable and/or favorite part of your day?
The most memorable/favorite part of the day was our exchange of vows. We have been in a long distance relationship for almost two years, and one major way that we have stayed connected during that time is by writing letters and emails to each other. Our vows were a culmination of those letters. They were the most important letters that we could write to each other. We hadn't shared them with each other prior to the wedding, so when we read them aloud for the first time at the ceremony, it felt very special, exciting, and intimate. Even though we were in a room full of family and friends, it felt like we were the only two people in the world. We will never forget that feeling.  

Catherine & Christian Wedding - Photos By One Summer Day

Any advice for other couples who are currently planning their weddings?
A very dear and wise friend gave us the following five pieces of advice, which we found super useful:

  1. Whenever you get flustered or caught up in the minutiae, call your partner and remind yourselves of your joint priorities and then toss anything on your list of stressors that doesn't directly speak to the priorities. Basically, don't be afraid to step back and refocus.
  2. After the ceremony, go sit with one another for 15 minutes. Drink a glass of something, have a small snack, and take in each other's company.
  3. During the reception hold each other's hands. It's really easy to be separated for the whole thing. If you don't want to be, holding hands reminds you (and the family and friends pulling you in different directions) that you are allowed to hang as a couple.
  4. Try to not set expectations of friends or relatives because a small handful will do crazy, selfish, or thoughtless things that will stick in your craw. If you are unsurprised by it, you won't let it drive you nuts or detract from what is most important.
  5. On the day before the wedding festivities, anything that isn't finished can get tossed out. It's not important. No one will miss it but you. And you won't care about it after you are married. 

Catherine & Christian Wedding - Photos By One Summer Day

If you could do it all again, would you change anything?
Catherine completely forgot to hug her Dad after he walked her down the aisle. (Sorry, Dad!) If she could do it again, she would give him a big hug!

What was your wedding song?
"Tonight You Belong to Me" by Steve Martin and Bernadette Peters

Catherine & Christian Wedding - Photos By One Summer Day

What surprised you the most about your wedding day?
The number of unexpected issues that popped up. Despite all our planning, there were a lot of unplanned events in the hours before the wedding — Catherine's sash got stained, our table numbers were attracting ants, we were about a half hour behind schedule, etc. Just goes to show that no matter how much planning you do, there will be surprises, and the best thing to do is roll with it, be present, and enjoy the day!

Catherine & Christian Wedding - Photos By One Summer Day

Why was choosing an ethical and eco-friendly jeweler important to you?
We wanted our rings to symbolize our love for and commitment to each other but also to represent our values. We love that Aide-mémoire’s jewelry is made from all recycled materials and that it donates money to causes that we support. And, of course, we love the simplicity and elegance of your designs.

Catherine & Christian Wedding - Photos By One Summer Day

Photos courtesy One Summer Day


Real Aide-Mémoire Weddings: Reid & John August 20 2014

Another blog series! We are delighted to begin a brand new blog series with handsome clients Reid & John as our first couple in the hot seat. Real Aide-Mémoire Weddings will profile some of the fabulous couples that we have been able (and honored!) to work with on their special day. As our debuting couple, Reid and John got married next to an authentic Connecticut lighthouse, complete with New England beach elegance, family and friends, and a shellfish or two. Enjoy, and thank you, Reid and John!

Real Aide-Mémoire Weddings: Reid and John. Photo by Kerry Long

Names: Reid & John
Location: Lighthouse Point Park, New Haven, Connecticut
Date: Saturday, June 21st, 2014

What was the most memorable and/or favorite part of your day?
It would probably just be the magic of having so many people who are so important to us—from family and friends we'd grown up with, to the found family of our more recent years in New York City and Connecticut, and everyone in between—all there to celebrate with us. It was so wild and unreal to be out on this little beach we love out in New Haven, in the shadow of a lighthouse, surrounded by the people we care about. Being able to share that setting, especially knowing the effort so many had made to be there, followed by carousel rides, what felt like a metric ton of shellfish at dinner, and a night of dancing felt just as important as having everyone there to witness our exchange of vows and rings.

Aide-Mémoire Real Weddings: Reid and John. Photo by Kerry Long


Any advice for other couples who are currently planning their weddings?
The one bit of advice we received from several couples was to take a few minutes for ourselves, just the two of us, immediately after the ceremony. We're really glad we did. Once we were pronounced the "most recently married couple in the state of Connecticut," as our officiant, Reid's cousin Margaret, put it, we walked back down the "aisle" (of sand), past the lighthouse, and kept on going. Taking a brief walk together gave us time to digest everything that had just happened before the craziness of the rest of the evening got underway. One other thing: It's all going to be fine.

Aide-Mémoire Real Weddings: Reid and John. Photo by Christopher Ash


If you could do it all again, would you change anything?
We only wish we could've spent more time with everyone who came—it was all over in a flash.

What was your wedding song?
We weren't even sure we were going to do a first dance for a while (having never really slow-danced in front of a big group before, let alone 150 of our closest family and friends). But we decided to, in the end, and we danced to "You Ain't Alone" by Alabama Shakes. 

Aide-Mémoire Real Weddings: Reid and John. Photo by Christopher Ash


What surprised you the most about your wedding day?
"Are we going to be heckled at our own wedding?" was a question we asked ourselves a few times after we booked our venue. Since Lighthouse Point Park is a public beach, there's only so much you can control. But the answer to that question was "no," thankfully, and that extra layer of unpredictability and visibility actually ended up being one of the most special parts of the day. We weren't cloistered away on a private beach far from prying eyes—we were out in the middle of everything else that was going on that day. Prying eyes were everywhere! There are sunbathers, gawkers, and kids playing in the background of a lot of the photos from the ceremony, and we're so glad for that. It could have easily gone down another way, but as it was, all those people were cheering and clapping when we were pronounced officially married, and there was something extremely powerful about that show of support that we never would have expected. 

Aide-Mémoire Real Weddings: Reid and John. Photo by Christopher Ash


Why was choosing an ethical and eco-friendly jeweler important to you?
When we found Aide-Mémoire, completely by accident, we knew almost instantly that they were the jewelers for us. Beyond the fact that the simplicity of the rings was exactly what we were looking for, the idea of recycled metals was very appealing to us. For environmental reasons, sure, but also because we value things with character, individuality, and history, both in our daily lives and as part of the wedding—we used mismatched chairs for the ceremony, thrift store plates for dinner, and shells, sea glass, and odd flea-market finds for decor. That Aide-Mémoire also donates to causes we ourselves believe in only cemented that this was the jeweler to go with. We're so, so happy with our rings.



Photos courtesy Christopher Ash and Kerry Long.